review µ Marry Smart


10 thoughts on “Marry Smart

  1. says:

    This book touts the advantages of allowing men to manipulate your identity to be desirable I rename it 50 Shades of Cray


  2. says:

    It's refreshing to see that traditional values haven't been lost but are encouraged I think the greater message which has been overshadowed by the media is to define what makes you happy and work diligently to accomplish all that you want to be and have


  3. says:

    Whoa I'm still decompressing from this book Aside from my opinions about the author and her message which I will definitely address let me first say that this book isn't particularly well composed After Susan finishes her overview of finding a mate in either your 20s or dare she say your 30s eek you spinster she includes a later section about dating in your 50's how to deal with an empty nest how to talk to your daughter about how she'll never be attractive or fertile than she is during her college years thanks Mom and Dadand also entertaining in the home Mmmmkay Susie girl The chapters are very short and just in case she couldn't keep your attention for four pages or less there are re cap boxes on the last page of each chapter for her most important points Sometimes the recap is literally the last sentence on the page again I thought this book was for Smart Girls? Surely they can garner a point readily than that Anyway on to the content So Susan starts her book with the disclaimer that this book is only geared towards those women who hope to enter into a traditional marriage and have children However it's written broadly and that's what generally offends enrages me It's one thing to tell women that wanting to be a mother is nothing to be ashamed of I agree that you shouldn't feel like wanting to be a mom is a bad thing However as Susan continues to lay out her rational and advice it goes from bad to worse She's as someone who spoke with her on panel said that crazy aunt that sidles up to you at wedding and tells you you're not getting any younger Literally Most of her advice is that you are not getting any younger and your eggs are ticking time bombs Find a husband now or be doomed to either never have children or be prepared to shell out tons of money and experience emotional and physical pain while completing in vitro or trying to adopt Well Susan what about those women who do get married and try to start families only to find that even in their non spinster years they can't conceive? Lesser parenting for you sorry Other sage advice Settle Don't be a slut Or worse a drunk slut If you get raped and you've been drinking that's on you YOU ARE SO FERTILE RIGHT NOW BUT YOU ARE GETTING LESS FERTILE EVERY SECOND PANIC Every child needs a father But it's okay if you get divorced because you're not right for each other You really just need the dude's genetic contribution Old moms older than 35 have defect babies No one trusts unmarried women in their 30s And no one wants to date them When your marriage falls apart though dating in your 50s is SO MUCH FUN You should stay home and raise the kids But don't expect to be in the work force when they go to college It's okay if you would have worked you would have gotten fired downsized anyway Good luck in your empty nest Never discuss your paycheck Unless you're Susan Patton SHE MADE 350000 A YEAR WHILE WORKING FROM HOME AND BEING THE CLASS MOTHER Feminists are evil They should put their bras back on and stop emasculating men Parents please discuss your daughters' fertility with them as soon as they start college Their eggs are already drying up I could go on But I'm going to stop Susan doesn't fact check Susan relies on her personal advice that seems better left in the 1950s which she thinks were a much better time for women anyway since their career prospects were so limited they really had no better options than having babies right away If you want to be a mom that's your life and you can make those decisions for yourself If your ONLY goal in life is to have children maybe this book will be good for you If you actually want to have a good relationship a family AND a career I suggest you seek other sages Unless you like being really angry for 200 pages


  4. says:

    I just heard this author on NPR I WILL not be reading this book I am not feminist but I do believe men and women are complete in of themselves they don't need to be married or have children to love a full life This author just made me feel like a failure for not getting married in college when I should of and having the children I probably won't have I could go on but I will refrainIt has been a long time since I had eually strong reactions to gag and to scream in anger Also I am rating this one even though I didn't read it as I want it to have low ratings blech


  5. says:

    So I wrote a letter to WSJ complaining about this book and they published it I disagree with her premise that the best catch are around you in college but guess what?? You will find an even BETTER catch as you grow and become even betterShe is 100% correct in that women should act classy and not slutty but she needs to get over the notion that college boys are the best bet


  6. says:

    The advice in this book is so right and so wrong simultaneouslyI plan to advise my daughter to be open to some of the tips namely the suggestion that women should marry someone as smart or smarter than you Successful men have prereuisites before they marry so successful women should operate with the same standards


  7. says:

    This book gets a higher rating than I thought I might because there IS actually useful information included but its “cons” are many ManyThe author of “Marry Smart” Susan Patton gained fame in 2013 when she wrote a letter to the campus newspaper at her alma mater Princeton University Known as the “Princeton Mom” she encouraged the women at Princeton to reevaluate their priorities on campus to include husband and potential father hunting The letter went viral and now someone has given her a publishing dealBefore we go any further I should tell you that I went to a women’s college Chatham College now Chatham University to be exact and that experience colors the way that I look at any book with the main argument that women should work very hard to find their husband in college because it’s all downhill from there Clearly I went to a college where that wasn’t an option on campus though we were by no means limited in the opportunity to meet men given that two very large universities were literally right down the street Still the world ready woman in me rebels at the notion that if I don’t try to find a husband early and therefore have children early that my life will be barren and disappointing I know several people who met their husbands during college and are very happy that they have those long term relationships but I would be hard pressed to find one of them women’s college graduate or not that felt that if they hadn’t locked that relationship down in college that they were doing themselves a disserviceAs I said there is useful information in the book and a lot of it stems from the very real world advice that Patton offers as a human resources executive though identifying herself as a “HR Babe” is somewhat nauseating She spends various parts of the book advocating for women to be active in trying new things on campus to broaden their horizons and encouraging them to re invent themselves within reason because college is a great time to figure out not only who you are but who you want to be Those are actually great arguments and I did both during my time at college When she sticks to the HR advice including being mindful of your online persona and perhaps out of college going for the smaller role at a better known company than a bigger position at a place you’ll have to constantly explain there are legitimate lessons to be learned There is really uite a bit of empowering advice present It’s just that it’s all buried within the “make sure you marry and pop out a couple before your looks are gone” crap that you can’t really take the good stuff seriouslyI said earlier that there are many “cons” to the book Let me give you some of themPatton’s view is pretty limited She talks about coming from a middle class family her parents Holocaust survivors but a lot of her arguments come from an elitist perhaps even discriminatory place Now in this regard she share some of the criticism that Sheryl Sandberg faced with “Lean In” but I think she and Sandberg differ greatly in the way they believe that women should be balancing home family and career Sandberg insists you can have it all; Patton presumes that you really don’t want it all but you’re afraid to say that Patton also has a decided hetero bias She explicitly states her “ability to discern the difference between feminists and lesbians is limited” Having gone to a women’s college I know many feminists and I know many lesbians This is not one of the SAT logic uestions where you should infer that just because Jane Doe is a feminist she must also be a lesbian or vice versa It just doesn’t work that wayThe biggest parts of Patton’s arguments are that women after the age of about 28 might as well stock up on the cats and just learn to be happy with the life they have given the fact that they’ve thrown away the chance to have a child or at least one with less of a chance of disability due to advanced maternal age Or you can feel free to draw up the bridge early if you’re overweight have bad teeth or don’t dress nicely But don’t dress provocatively because then you’ve earned whatever you get in the form of harassment or rape Being a 34 year old obese single woman with braces I’m pretty much out of the running unless I give in to gastric bypass because yes expensive elective procedures will make everything better Good thing my reproductive organs were already suspect because clearly they wouldn’t be cooperative now anywayIn case you do want to marry and have children Patton makes sure that she includes a chapter on cooking there’s a meatloaf recipe and party throwing However I have thrown major dinner parties – multiple courses carefully planned menus and decorations invitations and guest gifts – and none of that has helped me “land a man” Similarly I have married friends who had can make dinner but have no ability to Martha Stewart it up If you want to throw a party great But you can’t believe that this is a full proof way to get the husband and baby that we all must desperately want inside Nor that throwing said party after you have the husband and baby will make you any like June Cleaver the obvious perfect idealMy final argument against Patton is that she actively encourages young women to ignore their careers in favor of getting married In fact she advocates for women to spend 75% of their time to getting married and having babies and only 25% of the time on their careers Not only does this fall into the elitist stance mentioned earlier – most women just don’t have the ability to do this – but it negates the very real issues of the wage gap and the need for women who are working and longer than ever before on top of just making ends meet to be mindful of their savings and retirement funds something ALL financial experts advise having She also says that “a ticking biological clockwill always be an impediment to true gender euality” and makes a special point of pointing out that maternal leave policies are modernized I would argue that’s a false statement when the US is one of the few industrialized countries in the world that doesn’t have real maternal leave policiesThere was only one statistic that I could find in the entire book and it had no attributed source so I can’t even call it a real statistic Patton admits that the book is made up of anecdotes and a whole lot of opinion which is fine expect it’s hard to lend any credence to her opinions when the only factual backup she includes are biological and even then it’s suspect Read the included uotation below about STDs and you’ll understandAs I said in the very beginning there IS valuable content in the book If Patton had written this is a “how to” guide for young women in college to position themselves for the best start in to the “real world” as the HR executive she is it might have been a success but at every opportunity and some that are clearly a stretch for applicability she shoehorns the argument that your biological time is a tickin’ into the narrative and yet again you have to take a deep breath and resist the urge to swear loudlyNotable uotations• “The female body is a receptacle for all sorts of diseases that men escape” pg 15 I don’t think that’s accurate Are there STDS that only women get?• “Find a good husband early – it’s better for you and better for your baby” pg 31• “True liberation comes from knowing you always have a date on Saturday night that there will be one special valentine for you every February 14 knowing exactly who you’ll be locking lips with on New Year’s Eve and that through thick and thick and thin you have a partner for life” pg 20• “It would seem that the mark of true success would be to pay others to do everything else so that you could be with your children in the comfort of your home making dinner for your family and planting flowers in your backyard” pg 125• “In truth in your twenties you are evaluating your dates for much than just the position of your husbandyou are looking for a father for your future children Finding the best possible man and genetic material for your offspring is an enormous responsibility” pg 218• “Remember that you have a limited window of opportunity within which to bear your own children and finding the right husband will be the cornerstone of your future happiness and the foundation of your future family” pg 50 My college motto is that “That are daughters may be as cornerstone” so this once was a special level of BS for me


  8. says:

    This book was front and center on the shelf of new library books and I decided to read it to see if I married smart According to the author I did marry smart because I found and married my husband our last year in college in 1968 There were many things I agreed with because I have a traditional marriage I choose to stay home when the children were growing up even though I had a degree It was the right decision for me Even though our money situation was tight I used my education to learn ways to help our family of four children from 1971 1984 I finally entered the work force in 1984 and was so glad I was able to stay home when I did after seeing mothers of infants struggling with guilt and difficulties trying to balance family and work Traditional marriages and family life may not be for everyone but it's good for this generation of 20 year olds to hear this perspective and decide for themselves what they really want out of life


  9. says:

    Reuested an e arc because of all the discussion around Patton's article I was curious against my better judgement I wish I'd listened to myself because I really did not enjoy reading this book and frankly didn't really finish Luckily her advice is so snobby elitist and specific it won't really apply to the vast majority of humanity but I'm sure it will be widely read Most of her faults are pretty generic reducing people to hackneyed stereotypes fat shaming explaining via biological reductionism and even the few tiny morsels of good advice she gives is so difficult to pick out that it does little to redeem the book overall For example she advises that women be nice to men because you never know whatwho they might turn out to be couching basic good advice about politeness in a social climbing and b women do this men do that stereotypes Hard pass


  10. says:

    Old Fashion advice for those seeking a traditional life The only constant in life is change but certain principles never will a truth many would have you believe antiuated and retrogressive But the facts are plain dreams don't just happen you work for everything you get; no one man or woman will pay for what they can get for free;


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review » eBook or Kindle ePUB Ô Susan Patton

Marry Smart

Duate women at Princeton “Here’s what you really need to know that nobody is telling youfind a husband on campus before you graduate Yes I went there”Now in Marry Smart Patton goes even further with the benefit of hindsight to give women everywhere the advice they need about marriage motherhood and happiness It is a book of savvy advice mixed with anecdotes recipes and above all a keen sense of humor Patton covers topics such as college hook up culture how to spot a Good Boy why it’s harder for smarter girls to date how to maintain resp I just heard

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The “Princeton mom” who caused a stir with her controversial letter to the Daily Princetonian offering advice to young women at Princeton about marrying early delivers unvarnished truths in this smart straightforward and witty book of life lessonsA graduate of Princeton’s class of 1977 Susan Patton garnered strong reactions from both naysayers and supporters with her controversial column published in the college newspaper in March of 2013 “Forget about having it all or not having it all leaning in or leaning out” she wrote to undergra Whoa I'm sti

review » eBook or Kindle ePUB Ô Susan Patton

Ect for yourself through all the nonsense and much Aimed at college girls and graduates this book has tips and life lessons for women everywhere who haven’t found a partner yet or are struggling to decide when it’s the right time for Mr Right or for whom Mr Right has gone wrongAs unerringly honest as Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother as practical as Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man and infused with Patton’s tell it like it is homey charm Marry Smart contains old fashioned wisdom for a modern generation of women Reuested an

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  • 02 March 2019
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